What Do You Really Want

Interesting question! What do you really want. This is a question I have been pondering a lot lately. I went through the quotes in the journal that is the companion to my book Buried Treasure:Finding Enchantment Within. I found one “Are you in touch with the things you really want in your life?”

The answer truly is that most of us are not in touch with the life we want.

My Journey

I have done many things in my life. Written songs, sold records, worked in a large corporation and a Mom and Pop shop. I am an Herbalist and Hypnotherapist. I am an author, blogger, healer and many other things.

Currently I am in the enviable (??) position of putting together the life I want.

In the past I read Creative Visualization: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Your Life and You Can Heal Your Life and created the life I wanted. It worked and worked well.

I got complacent as we all seem to. I started reacting to life rather than creating it.

Having re-read all the books I know what I have to do but don’t seem to want to put in the effort. I keep hearing Joe Dispenza¬†Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One in my head telling me to “sit and visualize till you create the feeling.” Unfortunately I seem to be more focused on what I don’t have.

Negative Focus

My clients and my friends know all about this. We all understand that focusing on positive brings more positive. We have all done it. So what is negative focus.

An example of negative focus for money is constantly focusing on the lack of it. For instance constantly having the feeling of longing or desperation for money causes more longing and desperation. You can affirm that you have a lot of money but if you are feeling poverty you put out mixed messages and get nothing.

Instead, get yourself into a state of calmness. A state of happiness is even better. Then send out the affirmation that you have a lot of money. You are sending out a single message that way.

Positive Focus and Repetition

When I first began affirming I really didn’t believe it would work. I just kept saying the affirmation over and over. Sure enough it worked!

Sometimes your belief is so ingrained that you cannot get a positive visual on something you want. Repetition does work. You will need to remember that affirmations/visualization (I prefer daydreams) works in the exact right time. You can’t do it once and expect immediate results. That can happen but it is rare.

How do you focus on positive? You do not focus on simply having money. You focus on what that would feel like. Not necessarily what you would spend it on, but what it would feel like to have it.

When you focus on positive you will probably run across some negative beliefs getting in the way. If you grew up thinking money was scarce you most probably have to overcome that belief. You will also reach a point where it doesn’t seem to be working and you are ready to give up. This moment comes right before the breakthrough you are looking for. Just keep going.


Before you write this all off as woo woo take a minute and think about all the people that have had amazing success. We all know about Bill Gates. He didn’t go the easy route. He loved what he did and just kept going. Bill Gates believed in himself whether or not anyone else did.

Remember the famous actors and actresses that are not like the others. The sports stars. There are examples everywhere if you look for them.

Two of my favorites are the Buffets. Jimmy and Warren. If you listen to interviews with Jimmy Buffet he always says he got into playing music to meet girls. He certainly has travelled to the beat of his own drum and been successful at it. Was it easy? I doubt it. He just keeps on doing what he loves and it works. Listen to the lyrics of some of his songs. One comes to mind for me “if you believe it will, it will come true.”

Warren Buffet according to the interviews I’ve seen just simply loves what he does. He has always loved what he does. Has it been successful? The short answer is YES!

I heard an interview with him where he was talking to students. His advice? “Do what you would do if you didn’t have to work.”

So many people I know (including me) find this advice difficult. We have been told that if you do what you love the money will follow. What these writers fail to say is that it won’t be immediate and it certainly won’t be a straight path.

Something to think about.